This is just my personal inquiry of the wisdom I can derive at this point in my life as I work to let go of and heal from the impact of this experience. But after five years of marriage and a vivacious three-year-old son, I felt my life — what was left — slipping out of my grasp. And sure enough, I met that very person. Was he married, girlfriend, gay?
I’m A Married Woman Who Had An Affair And This Is What It Taught Me
Do men cheat for the thrill? Or the sex?
He has a wife, I have a husband, and both of us are doting parents. When our lives became entangled, the last thing we expected was to fall in love. Anonymous Updated September 19, We both have young kids, nice homes, successful careers, packed social calendars. But beneath the shiny veneer, something had withered away over the years: not only sex, but intimacy with our spouses. We had come to feel like we were just sharing parenting duties and a home with someone who could best be described as an old, comfortable friend.
We believe a romantic partner is there to provide us with love, comfort and security. So people are quick to make judgements and lay blame on perpetrators of what they see as a significant violation of relationship norms and betrayal of trust. Infidelity highlights the potential fragility of our closest and most important of relationships. Read more: We all want the same things in a partner, but why? But despite the blunt belief infidelity is the result of immoral and over-sexed individuals wanting their cake and eating it too, the reality is far more nuanced.
In nearly every case, the sex in an affair is great. But great sex is not saved for adultery. Ironically, many of the things which make adulterous sex great can be used to make married sex great.